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Weekly Message

Who Are You?


The issues and life experiences that made us who we are, are important, but they are not the final answer to who we really are. The only way our life experiences serve us is if we have figured out what we were supposed to learn from them and learned it.


Albert Einstein said that the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Yet many of us go through our entire lives making the same mistakes over and over and wondering why nothing seems to change in our lives.


We live in a shame-based society where we are told from birth that we are sinners, unworthy of God’s love. “Shame on you” is a popular chastisement for children, and is used by adults to each other also. We are shamed for making mistakes when mistakes are a necessary part of learning and growing. We listen to all these messages that disparage the fact that we are a spark of God, we take all the shame in and then we wonder why we have problems with low self esteem.


As we go through life, we also develop fears. Unfortunately too often we hold onto these fears and let them control us. Many of us find that we bring the fears and shame from the past into our present and let them define who we are.


Is the who of you out?

Is it really?

Do you wear it like a doubt,

not quite certain what you’re all about?


The who of each of us is Soul struggling to learn and grow and find its way home to God. Fears and shame are merely illusions we used to keep ourselves rooted in the material world and off the pathway home to God.


But if they are illusions, why do they seem so real? They seem real because we give them power over us by claiming them. We let them live in our psyches, guide our actions, and foretell our future.


However, like any weed, they can be destroyed. We first need to remember who gave us the shame and fear and give it back to them. Many people use a simple ceremony that involves writing the fears and shame down on paper.


They then write a letter to the person who gave them the shame or fear, verbally giving the shame or fear back to that person. The letters do not have to be delivered to be effective. They may be burned, posted, put in dumpsters, or shredded. Then, when the weed of shame or fear has been uprooted, they use positive affirmations to claim the behavior they wish to have instead of fear and shame.


We need to get back to who we really are so we can remember why we are here – to learn and grow and find our way home to God.


May the God of Love add a blessing to these humble words.


© 2015 Rev. S. Suzanne Fisher